I've been super frustrated and annoyed with so many things that my husband is probably tired of hearing about it. I'm sure a lot of that has to do with being pregnant and the hormones that come with it or maybe people and things are just super annoying. I thought maybe blogging about it and writing might help get it out.
I feel like I'm a pretty easy person to get along with but I feel like others are so inconsiderate of other people's feelings. I feel like we all forget that we all have a life and really don't know what's going on in the other person's life. Typically all we know is what the person chooses to share. I've learned that if I'm in a bad mood then I just keep to myself and don't say much. I don't want to say things I will regret and ruin friendships and relationships that are important to me just because I'm grumpy.
You know what I wish? I wish sometimes I could be as much of a slacker as other people. I've had several jobs throughout my life and feel like I always give 100% to them. I often don't feel that those I work for really appreciate how hard I work and how much effort I give to do my best. When it comes to projects, friendships and life I feel the same way but feel like I get disappointed by the way others treat me. I remember playing sports and working my butt off to reach what goals and things I set for myself. Sometimes it comes to people naturally and they take it for granted. I feel the same way when I want to do something but someone else is doing it but giving little to no effort. Reward and give to those people that have a passion for whatever it is they are doing.
I think one of the things I struggle most with is being bombarded with inconsistencies. If you say you are going to do something then do it. If you want to hang out then let's plan something. If you want to be my friend then be my friend and don't just pretend and make time for me when it's only convenient for you. I've said it before and I'll say it again, "It's hard being a good friend. I get let down and my feelings hurt by others who don't seem to care as much as I do."
A whole other subject is children. Some of us have children. Some of us don't. Some of us don't want any. Some of us will never have any. We all have different situations and we all have difficult moments that we face. There isn't one great way to parent and your opinion about how someone else is doing it doesn't need to be shared. It makes me sad to see when children treat their parent's poorly or in a sense walk all over them. I feel people are scared to tell their kids no or to give consequences or to be firm. It kind of goes back to being consistent which is something that is very difficult to do as a parent for me as well. Being a parent is hard. Our children can be very difficult but I feel like they are well behaved most of the time.
We have had a lot going on with Everett in the last year or so and getting some testing done for him. We have received some answers and we are grateful that we are slowly figuring things out. It's hard. I find myself wanting to cry a lot when things get emotional with him or it seems like too much to handle. What upsets me is when people say things like, "Oh he seems totally fine and normal to me".
You see things so differently when they are your child. I don't really feel it's necessary to share that opinion unless you have been asked. I feel people don't understand Everett or us and what we see. I don't make excuses for him at all and what he does behavior wise but I don't like what people have to say or what they think they know. Some of my friends have been absolutely amazing at supporting me through this hard time and some not so great. I pick and choose who I talk to because I don't need any negativity from anyone.
My points:
Be a better friend
Work harder
Don't judge others
Reward those that deserve it
Be happy for others
Keep your opinion to yourself if it doesn't help the situation
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